Pity Party to Micro Breakthrough
Today, I want to talk about a ‘Pity Party to a Micro Breakthrough’. Now I know, when you’re developing your new business or you’re trying to grow your existing business, or just in life in general, there’s going to be days that nothing seems to be going right and those may even be weeks instead of just days.
And you just kind of get down on yourself and things aren’t going well and you’re kind of having a little pity party. And, you know, pity party is not going to really do anything for anybody, but I know people – including myself, you know, it happens to us all the time – things don’t go well, we end up talking to some of our buddies and pals and kind of co-miserating with them about how bad things are and how I wish things were better, different or whatever the situation is.
And those have never paid me any kind of dividend spending my time and effort doing that. What I’ve tried to do is whenever I catch myself having my own little pity party, being down on why things aren’t going the way they need to or maybe I’m just frustrated because I don’t know what to do next or how to get past this current issue, I will go and try to pull myself out of that situation and go do something different: go work out, go do yard work, go see a friend, go shopping – go do something different.
What works for me most often is going and learning something new and maybe not even something that has anything at all to do with the challenge I’m trying to overcome at the moment. Just go and learn something, go to YouTube, grab a book off your shelf that you haven’t read for a while, go read, go and unplug from the current situation and go do something else.
What I have found is when I go through some training or I read a book or I go for a walk and listen to some podcast or listen to some audio training, I inevitably find new ways or new things to do that help getting me back on track, that help push me past my current challenge, my current issue. Now sometimes I do that very specifically: I’m having a problem, I can’t get past it, so I plan to go and do something, because I hope that as soon as that’s done, I’ll come back and I’ll have the answers to whatever my challenge is.
And sometimes it’s not that easy and sometimes it’s not that simple. Sometimes you go and you start learning something new or you’re listening to an audio or you’re reading a book and you think you’re going to come up with, you know, whatever the answer is to your current challenge. And you actually find that you answer a question that you didn’t realize you had or you find a way to change or fix something else in your business or there’s something else that you decide that you need to be spending your time on it.
And sometimes, I’ve even gone and decided that whatever it was that I was struggling with wasn’t worth doing at all; that I was just going to punt, I was going to stop, I was going to back off, I was going to do something else, I was going to go on a different direction, I was not going to continue to try to push past that brick wall. I was going to go around it. And that’s the best thing.
If you get so focused on a particular issue and you’re putting time and energy into it again and again and again, you know, it’s like banging your head against the wall. At some point in time, you’ve got to just say, ‘Hey, this has got to stop!’ You know, doing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result, you know, that’s the definition of insanity. So try to unplug yourself from that situation.
Try to go do something completely different. It can’t be: do something slightly different, go and just try to solve the problem in a different way. I mean completely unplug, refresh your brain, reboot your brain; go do something that has absolutely nothing to do with your current problem at hand is. Either go read a book, go listen to an audio, go take some training material, go watch some YouTube videos.
What I’ll do is I’ll leave my home office and maybe I’ll go for a walk and listen to an audio or something. And then, even when I come back, oftentimes I’ll just change my environment. I’ll grab my laptop and go work out on the back deck. I’ll sometimes grab my laptop and go to a restaurant and grab some lunch and work from the restaurant – just getting a different environment, getting a different setting, just to really take you out of that current funk you’re in, take you out of that current environment, that sludge, that quicksand that you’re in, just get out of it.
And go do something else to refresh your brain, get your brain think in different ways, being more creative and going to finding new things to focus on. And it works wonders for me. I get into these situations where I’m so focused on something that at some point in time, you know, I double my effort for half of the return. And then I double my effort again for half yet of that return. And it really just gets to that diminishing return’s point when you’re just pushing harder and harder and it doesn’t seem to getting any better.
Unplug. Get away from it, go look at something else, come back. And I never get stuck, I’ve never not been able to get past something. But sometimes I do come back and say, ‘You know what? I’m trying this the wrong way. I’m going to stop doing that and I’m going to do it this way.’ Or, ‘I’m just worrying about that too much.’ Or, ‘This is not that important.’ Or, sometimes, I’ll come back and go, ‘Okay, now I know how to get past that. Now I know what the issue is, or the deal is, or why that particular situation is.‘
I mean a lot of times this happens to me where I have some technical issues, I may think I know how to do something, but the computer doesn’t seem to be working with me, right?
It’s not saving the file, I’ve re-recorded that audio 5 times, but that issue is still there, I can’t figure out what the deal is, you know, and that web page is not loading right, whatever the deal is. You get into these things where you just can’t get past this problem, you just can’t get past this one particular micro-issue.
And just go, do something else, focus on something else. I like doing training, I like going and learning something new. So go focus on something else, learn something else and I promise you, you will think differently about whatever that problem was. You may or may not want to continue pushing that or push past that problem.
You may want to punt that all together, you may want to find an outsourcer to give it to or give it to your freelancers and let them fix the problem. You may not want to fix the problem. You may ditch it and go do something else. But unplug. Do not, do not, do not continue to put more and more effort into something that’s not producing the result that you’re looking for.
You just continue to get frustrated, your brain keeps doing the same thing, because you’re in the funk, you’re in the mud, you’re in the quicksand, and you can’t get past it. So your brain keeps doing the same thing again and again and again and you’re probably making mistakes that you don’t even see. Get out of it. Unplug, get away, go do something else.