Anthony Flatt here. Today I want to talk about a ‘Pity Party to a Micro Breakthrough’.
What is a Pity Party?
There’s going to be days that nothing seems to be going right. It’s either when developing your new business or trying to grow your existing one. Those may even be weeks instead of just days.
When things aren’t going well and you’re kind of having a little pity party. You just kind of get down on yourself. And, you know, pity party is not going to really do anything for anybody, but I know people – including myself. It happens to us all the time. Things don’t go well, and we end up talking to some of our buddies and pals. Confiding with them about how bad things are and how I wish things were better.
But those have never paid me any kind of dividend spending my time and effort doing that.
What to do when you’re having a pity party?
Whenever I catch myself having a little pity party, I try to pull myself out of that situation. I do something different: go work out, go do yard work, go see a friend, go shopping.
Learn something new
Oftentimes, what works for me is going and learning something new. Maybe not even something that has anything at all to do with I’m trying to overcome at the moment. Just go and learn something. Go to YouTube, grab a book off your shelf that you haven’t read for a while, go read, go and unplug from the current situation, just go and do something else.
Go through some training
What I have found when I go through some training, I inevitably find new ways or new things to do. Things that helped to get me back on track, push me past my current challenge, my current issue.
Sometimes I do that very specifically. When I’m having a problem and can’t get past it, I plan to go and do something. Because I hope that as soon as that’s done, I’ll come back and I’ll have the answers to whatever my challenge is.
And sometimes it’s not that easy and it’s not that simple. Sometimes you go and you start learning something new and you think you’re going to come up with whatever the answer is to your current challenge.
And you actually find that you answer a question that you didn’t realize you had. You find a way to change or fix something else in your business. Or there’s something else that you decide that you need to be spending your time on it.
Go in a different direction
And sometimes, whatever it was that I was struggling with wasn’t worth doing at all; that I was just going to punt. I was going to stop, I was going to back off, I was going to do something else, I was going to go in a different direction, I was not going to continue to try to push past that brick wall. I was going to go around it. And that’s the best thing.
If you get so focused on a particular issue and you’re putting time and energy into it again and again and again, you know, it’s like banging your head against the wall.
At some point in time, you’ve got to just say, ‘Hey, this has got to stop!’ You know, doing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result, you know, that’s the definition of insanity. So try to unplug yourself from that situation.
Try to go do something completely different. It can’t be: do something slightly different, go and just try to solve the problem in a different way.
Unplug. Get away from it, go look at something else, come back. And I never get stuck, I’ve not been able to get past something.
I mean completely unplug, refresh your brain, reboot your brain; go do something that has absolutely nothing to do with your current problem at hand is. Either go read a book, go listen to audio, go take some training material, go watch some YouTube videos.
What I’ll do is I’ll leave my home office and maybe I’ll go for a walk and listen to an audio or something. And then, even when I come back, oftentimes I’ll just change my environment. I’ll grab my laptop and go work out on the back deck.
I’ll sometimes grab my laptop and go to a restaurant and grab some lunch and work from the restaurant – just getting a different environment, getting a different setting, just to really take you out of that current funk you’re in, take you out of that current environment, that sludge, that quicksand that you’re in, just get out of it.
And go do something else to refresh your brain, get your brain think in different ways, being more creative and going to finding new things to focus on. And it works wonders for me. I get into these situations where I’m so focused on something that at some point in time, you know, I double my effort for half of the return.
Double your Effort
And then I double my effort again for half yet of that return. And it really just gets to that diminishing return’s point when you’re just pushing harder and harder and it doesn’t seem to get any better.
But sometimes I do come back and say, ‘You know what? I’m trying this the wrong way. I’m going to stop doing that and I’m going to do it this way.’ Or, ‘I’m just worried about that too much.’, ‘This is not that important.’ Or, sometimes, I’ll come back and go, ‘Okay, now I know how to get past that. Now I know what the issue is, or the deal is, or why that particular situation is.‘
I mean a lot of times this happens to me where I have some technical issues, I may think I know how to do something, but the computer doesn’t seem to be working with me, right?
It’s not saving the file, I’ve re-recorded that audio 5 times, but that issue is still there, I can’t figure out what the deal is, you know, and that web page is not loading right, whatever the deal is. You get into these things where you just can’t get past this problem, you just can’t get past this one particular micro-issue.
And just go, do something else, focus on something else. I like doing training, I like going and learning something new. So go focus on something else, learn something else and I promise you, you will think differently about whatever that problem was. You may or may not want to continue pushing that or push past that problem.
Or you may want to punt that all together. Find an outsourcer to give it to or give it to your freelancers and let them fix the problem. You may not want to fix the problem. You may ditch it and go do something else. But unplug. Do not, do not, do not continue to put more and more effort into something that’s not producing the result that you’re looking for.
You just continue to get frustrated, your brain keeps doing the same thing because you’re in the funk, you’re in the mud, you’re in the quicksand, and you can’t get past it. So your brain keeps doing the same thing again and again and again and you’re probably making mistakes that you don’t even see. Get out of it. Unplug, getaway, go do something else.
Have a good on.